Friday, 15 May 2015

Oh what a thing, this writing!


We all have  gifts or treasures.  Some are hidden, some extracted.  Of those extracted there are those that are either polished or unpolished. 


My Extracted But Not Polished Gift Of Drawing


When I was about 13 or 14, a relative discovered by accident that I could draw.  I did not know this at the time nor did anyone.   I was not one of those kids like my cousin’s daughter. She was drawing before she could even talk!  



All pencils down!


So my drawing talent lay undiscovered till my teenage years.  My parents being who they were, once they knew I was one of those in the family who had inherited the ‘artist gene’ from my grandfather, they went all out and bought all things to do with art to develop the gift, encouraging the gift with their fullest support. 


However once I finished uni, I made one or two vague attempts to enrol in some art classes, started, but never followed it through.  Drawing was a gift that had been extracted and left unpolished.  As it stands, I could not tell you right now if I can still draw -  the only time I hold a pencil is to annotate in a book!



 My Extracted And Polished Gift


At 9 or 10, I won an international Commonwealth writing competition.  I was pushed into it by my teachers.  I found myself over my school years always being asked to be a magazine editor or do some writing.  Why or why?  I liked Maths, I had an analytical brain so why was I being asked to do this writing thing?  Again the minute I could get out of writing, apart from coursework, I got out of it. 


At work, I was the one asked to write training manuals.  Again being pushed to write..yet again.   In 2001, on giving my heart to Christ, I was once again pushed into this writing by my pastor then.  He asked me to be the church magazine editor.  I was not pleased.  In my mind, I had not told him I could even put b after a.  So why was he asking me to do this?  Was there this writing thing on my forehead for goodness sake?   I docked and dived every time I saw him.  I was not interested. 

I wanted to use my analytical brain and not my creative brain.  Cutting a long story short, God was not through with me.  It took the pastor to move to another branch, for me to actually think hard on this writing thing.  I learnt I could still be creative even though my brain loved numbers.  

I enrolled on writing courses..my first pastor had offered to pay for this..now I had to dig deep myself.  I attended writing groups.  I launched my first website in 2003, started doing blogs on and off from 2004.  I was in effect polishing this gift. 

The gift rejected became the chief cornerstone


God was very gracious and offered me new opportunities that I had turned down before in my previous church - When I got married and joined the church I am in today, I asked my pastor's wife, if I could write – yes this time I was the one asking! 

My pastor put me in touch with an amazing writing coach.  Her words are in my spirit till this day.  Subsequently I published a book with one of the top Christian publishers in 2011.  From trying to run away from this gift, I had become a published author. 


Recently, I decided to take my writing to the next much, much higher level.  There is  more land to conquer in whatever gift you have.   I have a coach again, and have  joined a writing group. I was well chuffed when my coach told me the other day that my writing was getting stronger. 

My writing is sparkling more.  Watch this space…

For inspiration on mental illness go to www.defyingmentalillness.com






Friday, 1 May 2015

Mental Illness And The Workplace

 


DejectedDoes mental illness have a place in the workplace? Mental illness and the workplace often brings stigma and discrimination. Colleagues act as though they are treading on eggshells around you once they suspect you have mental health challenges in the workplace. I never knew how word got out about my condition though as discussions with Occupational Heath are confidential. Perhaps I had not sheilded the medication I took at work with someone discovering what they were for. Mental illness … [Read more...]

Thursday, 30 October 2014

Ebola: Why We Must Not Be Fearful

 

WHO warns 10,000 new cases of Ebola a week are possible …

“Why Ebola is so dangerous”

“Ebola airborne: A nightmare that could happen” – CNN.com

The news of Ebola is everywhere. Ebola appears to be threatening humankind and no one is deemed safe. Or so it seems reading between the big headlines. There is a fuel of fear that is breeding because the experts tell us that we cannot be anything else but worried. Not being worried, is akin to being plain irresponsible.

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There seems to be a saturation of ebola news bringing fear

The rumours and news are certainly spreading at an accelerating and ‘overtaking’ rate of the disease itself. Not only are we dealing with the epidemic of the disease, but there is also another epidemic of Ebola ‘information overload’ that is creating anxiety and dread all around.

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Get Rid of Regret

Do you say any of these? If so, perhaps you are living in regret. Aim to eliminate these from your vocabulary and get rid of regret in your life once and for all. 
 
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Get rid of regret today!

Guest Blog: Dealing with Depression


Along the other symptoms, which drain the blood out of your face and take the spring out of your walk, depression arrives with the lack of hope, positive vision and with fears instead of faith.

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Once a mind is fully handed over to the Most High, depression becomes a distant memory

There may be medical reasons fuelling the incapacity described above which too many are forced to face these days. I believed that my experience of it was a result of a medical condition, initially. Yet looking back, I am convinced that a combination of untamed and not always legitimate desires paired with constant negative confessions had been momentous in bringing it to my doorstep.

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Overcoming Addiction

Addiction often comes like a compelling, driving force, a compulsive behaviour. Those challenged with addictions are always looking for ways in overcoming addiction. This is because addictive behaviour is often harmful to the individual concerned and also their relationships. 
 
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Too much sugar in your coffee?

With addictive behaviour there is extreme self-focus. In other words, people challenged with addictions can have a tunnel vision, thinking of themselves and not the impact they have on others.

Compulsive behaviour feeds on itself. It attracts all sorts of other compulsive behaviour. For example, (and this is an example), someone addicted to gambling may also find themselves lying to their spouse, making high risk financial decisions and so on.

Addictions however, are not always something extreme like overindulgence in alcohol, gambling or smoking, which we know are harmful. One can be addicted to coffee., to sugar, cakes and so on. One can be also addicted to the internet or addicted to the television. On the face of it, none of these are necessarily wrong or evil. But where its constant use or indulgence begins to control your life or even harm your health, then there may be an addictive behaviour developing!

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Tuesday, 2 September 2014

Feelings on a Psychiatric Ward



I was recently admitted to a psychiatric ward for about ten days.

My first response was disbelief. It had been a year since my last admittance. I had been well and bipolar disorder had not got the better of me. So disappointment and disbelief were my initial emotions.


Life on a mental ward  can be lonely and frightening

I basically slept on and off for the first three days. The medications enabled my behaviour and mind to calm down, I guess.

So on day four or five, I decided to enter the open ward and leave my room. I had decided that I did not want to interact with anyone, and initially kept to myself. By this time, I had accepted the situation, and was keen to get better, so that I could go back home.

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Tuesday, 26 August 2014

Life on a Mental Health Ward: First few days

One never gets used to being in a mental/psychiatric hospital.  Every stay is a new experience.  It is also another detour in one’s desperate escape from the enemy of mental illness.

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The insane asylum, loony bin, nuthouse, cuckoo house, padded palace, crazy house – alternative names used to refer to mental hospital!
All types of mental health ailments are represented in the ward with people at various stages of recovery (or at least were in those times).  There were patients sectioned under the Mental Health Act and voluntary patients like myself. 
Defying Mental Illness - Put a full stop
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When Mental Illness strikes a marriage – Walking in my shoes



It is said there is an elevated risk of divorce when a spouse is challenged with mental illness.   The cycle of emotions that the caring spouse endures make this risk pronounced, as sentiments towards the other run high and scorch desert dry.  Everyone and thing gets affected.  The kids, the extended family, the friends, the pets et al.


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Defying Mental Illness - Put a full stop
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Friday, 4 April 2014

Wednesday, 20 March 2013

Defy the Odds

That challenge is not authorised to swallow you up!  Don't give up!!  DEFY THE ODDS!!!


Monday, 4 February 2013

She Defied the Odds


Jessica Cox became the first pilot with no arms proving you do not need wings to fly!  She became the first armless pilot to earn a pilot's certificate and the first with such disability to gain a black belt in Taekwondo.  That is two firsts by my arithmetic!

Jessica was born with a rare birth defect being born with no arms.  None of the prenatal tests her mum did showed there was anything wrong.  Yet this woman showed determination in defying all the odds that lay ahead of her in life.



Jessica Cox is remarkable.  She is a psychology graduate.  Though she has no arms, she can:
  • write
  • type
  • drive a car without modifcation
  • brush her hair
  • talk on the phone
  • put on her contact lenses
  • and live a normal life basically!

Jessica has the attitude of success only. 
An attitude of fortitude and purpose.  Such attitude took her to the altitudes having spent three determined years in  her pilot training.  Attitude does indeed determine Altitude. 

How quick do we give up sometimes?  Yet this lady took the time, persistence and will power for the long haul that was required for her to get her pilot licence. 

Such admirable attitude caused her to defy the odds not even using  prosthetic arms since she turned 14.  She has made a choice to live a normal, vibrant life. 


The only disability in life is having the wrong attitude.  Reading testimonies of people like Ms. Cox is inspiring and spurs us to adopt the right attitude that is required for success and not submitting to our challenges.

Indeed Jessica defied the odds and so can YOU! 


Visit www.zoeonah.com and read about defying the odds of mental illness, and much more!
 
 
 

Thursday, 31 January 2013

Wednesday, 30 January 2013

DON'T GIVE UP!



Thomas Edison who created the lightbub said many people who consider themselves failures did not realize how close to success they were before they gave up.  Edison is said to have made more than 10,000 attempts before he succeeded!

The versions vary but Edision is allegedly quoted as saying  "I have not failed. I have successfully discovered 9,999 ways how to NOT make a light bulb". 

What if Edision had given up?


See FAILURES instead as CHALLENGES

Failures are stepping stones to our promotion.  They propel us forward if we resist giving up. See failures instead as challenges.  Edison refused to use the word 'fail'!  Change your speech.



Challenges makes you a stronger person
Challenges makes you grow
Challenges are often in the path of success
DON'T GIVE UP!
 
 

God did not create you to fail so you can never be a failure.  God calls YOU a success.  Why?  Because He is.  And we are made in His image and likeness.  What we therefore decide to call ourselves is up to us and subsequently affects our results in life. 

SAY THE RIGHT THING

Say right now  'I AM A SUCCESS!'  Keep saying it till it becomes your mindset.


How many attempts have you made at that thing?  9,999?  Then keep going!


 
 
 
 

Tuesday, 22 January 2013

Hi & Welcome


My name is Zoe Onah.  Lets talk...

Would you not like to defy the impossible?  Defy the odds of some 'sentence' over you?  Or do such stories inspire you?

Well, I will be blogging on defying the odds, mental health...and illness(!), emotional well being,  anything that inspires me...and hopefully you,  and a whole lot more.

So welcome and let's hang out.  Post your valued comments.  Share your thoughts. 

Before I go, remember one thing:

THOUGHTS become WORDS
WORDS become ACTIONS
ACTIONS become HABITS
HABITS become CHARACTER
CHARACTER become DESTINY



What are you thinking now??


 




Zoe
www.zoeonah.com